Domesticated Diva

When a man leaves a woman

Three years ago, my ex-husband left me after 14 years of being together, and 10 years of marriage. He walked out on me and my family. He left behind a wonderful son (11), and two beautiful daughters ages 4 and 1. He also walked out on a daughter he never met. The one I was carrying. I was just 7.5 months pregnant when he left.

When I look back at this time in my life, it was tough but definitely wasn’t the toughest I had ever been through. At that moment it was like my life was going to end. Of course it didn’t. I had to find strength to go on for my kids sakes. They were my world and they meant everything to me. I love and adored them. My ex-husband surprised me and shocked me, but he felt that we came from two different cultures and since I wasn’t willing to live his culture, he wasn’t willing to live mine. So he left. He really did me a favor.

Today after 3 years, I filed for divorce. In these three years we have had no intimate contact, and actually lost those feelings over time. I can’t say it’s been 3 years that I haven’t wanted my soon to be ex-husband, but it’s been a long time. It’s been over 2 years. I went through a healing process where I had to grieve and then I started to hate him. Now we are just good friends for the kids sakes. We do actually get a long pretty good. I still feel I know him better than anyone does. He knows that is the truth. He still calls me for EVERYTHING. People think it’s crazy that I do things for him still.. but it’s a give and take situation. We are friends for our kids sakes.

My boyfriend is wonderful about our relationship. He totally understands it and actually encourages it. He really is not jealous in the least bit, and will invite him into our home any time. He has gone out of his way on MANY occasions to extend his hand to my soon to be ex-husband. This is the way I hope it stays forever. These are two men in my life that I need. I need my ex, for my kids, and I need my boyfriend cause he’s just a wonderful guy. I am very thankful for them both.

I wish more people could get a long as well. Trust me things aren’t always honky doory but usually they are. Nine times out of 10 they are great!

My First Baby

Here you go mommies - a different kind of survey for a change- its all about yur first born!

1. Were you married at the time?
yes

2. What were your reactions?
When I found out I was pregnant, I was in pure and utter shock I had been trying for 3 years and the doctors told me it was impossible.

3. How old were you? 26

4. How did you find out you were pregnant?
Pure coincidence. I was holding my nephew when I realized I hadn’t had my period in 3 months and I was going to test for the heck of it.

5. Who did you tell first?
my mom!

6. Did you want to find out the sex ?
yes

7. Due Date
August 14, 2001

8. Did you have morning sickness?
yes

9. Did you deliver early or late?
early

10. What did you crave?
No Cravings just adversions

11. Who irritated you the most?
my boss

12. What was your first childs sex?
girl

13. How many pounds did you gain throughout your pregnacy?
33

14. Did you have any complications during your pregnancy?
Pregnancy Induced Hypertension

15. Where did you give birth?
Peekskill/New York

16. How many hours were you in labor?
6 hours

17. Who drove you to the hospital?
my mom

18. Who watched?
Medical Staff and My husband

19. Was it natural or c- section?
C-Section

20. Did you take medicine to ease the pain?
Spinal Block

21. How much did your child weigh?
8lbs 2oz

22. Did your child have any complications?
No

23. What did you name him/ her?
Lidia Grace

24. How old is your first born today?
6

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