Domesticated Diva

When a man leaves a woman

Three years ago, my ex-husband left me after 14 years of being together, and 10 years of marriage. He walked out on me and my family. He left behind a wonderful son (11), and two beautiful daughters ages 4 and 1. He also walked out on a daughter he never met. The one I was carrying. I was just 7.5 months pregnant when he left.

When I look back at this time in my life, it was tough but definitely wasn’t the toughest I had ever been through. At that moment it was like my life was going to end. Of course it didn’t. I had to find strength to go on for my kids sakes. They were my world and they meant everything to me. I love and adored them. My ex-husband surprised me and shocked me, but he felt that we came from two different cultures and since I wasn’t willing to live his culture, he wasn’t willing to live mine. So he left. He really did me a favor.

Today after 3 years, I filed for divorce. In these three years we have had no intimate contact, and actually lost those feelings over time. I can’t say it’s been 3 years that I haven’t wanted my soon to be ex-husband, but it’s been a long time. It’s been over 2 years. I went through a healing process where I had to grieve and then I started to hate him. Now we are just good friends for the kids sakes. We do actually get a long pretty good. I still feel I know him better than anyone does. He knows that is the truth. He still calls me for EVERYTHING. People think it’s crazy that I do things for him still.. but it’s a give and take situation. We are friends for our kids sakes.

My boyfriend is wonderful about our relationship. He totally understands it and actually encourages it. He really is not jealous in the least bit, and will invite him into our home any time. He has gone out of his way on MANY occasions to extend his hand to my soon to be ex-husband. This is the way I hope it stays forever. These are two men in my life that I need. I need my ex, for my kids, and I need my boyfriend cause he’s just a wonderful guy. I am very thankful for them both.

I wish more people could get a long as well. Trust me things aren’t always honky doory but usually they are. Nine times out of 10 they are great!

Missing in Action

What would make someone really want to start blogging after they haven’t for so many months?! SOMETHING TO BLOG ABOUT…

On Monday night, I met a guy who I had spoken to through myspace.  Kinda funny.. here I am advertising my friends single party for him, so I go on myspace and add a million "friends"  Through talking to a bunch of guys who contacted me after that..there is this ONE guy who I really felt I hit it off with.  He ROCKS.  So we meet for Coffee at starbucks.  Little did I know how addicted he was to coffee.  hahaha..

So we meet, and he seems really nice.. we sat in the car and chatted.. Well was a little uncomfortable at first.  We decided to go see a movie.  "Cloverfield" which was a scary movie.  This guy "Harry" used the opportunity of a scary part to put his arm around me.. WOOHOO.. lol. it’s been wonderful ever since.

I feel really odd to say this.. I never believed in love at first sight.  Never thought that was possible.. but I have to tell you lust a tifrst sight? I was attracted to harry the first time I saw his pic on myspace and then in person.. but the first kiss made my stomach jump with butterflies.. At that moment I have to say I felt like this was gonna be a long term relationship.  I really hope it happens.  In just these 2 days of knosing him, I have to tell you.. I really, really, really, really like this guy! Is he the one?! I really think he is.. but time will tell, right? I hope he is!!!

So we met Monday, Tuesday was his birthday… He went out with his brother and his brother’s girlfirned for Dinner, then they had cake and he went out with the brothers gifrlfriend to celebrate.. I was so tired so I went back to sleep.. I’m going to probably see him tonight.. I can’t wait.

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